Abuses, which are inherently morally unacceptable, are mostly hidden.
This is how children who are abused in their families, live in this lie, in this distortion between the social cover of a seemingly perfect family and the internal chaos of the same cell. Thus, in a fractal way, their psyche enters in dissociation. Living, laughing, performing, and inside are the great emptiness, the immensity of this suffering which brings all kinds of disorders: eating disorders, addictions, subject to manipulation…
Then lives are lived empty of senses and meaning…
Sexually abusing a child is making him believe that this is the world, that this is love and maybe even that this is what a love story is.
Above all, there is silence. There is this injunction to silence through terror.
Thus, are created petrified beings, incapable of taking action, who live with this inner injunction, conscious or unconscious, of “you don’t move, otherwise…”, “you keep quiet, otherwise…” with the finger pointed, the piercing gaze, the rising tone, the crushing body of the abuser, what make them dissociate to survive.
From this petrification is paradoxically born an incessant movement, the one of trauma. Doing, doing, doing, and above all not turning around, not feeling. Never stop, otherwise you will not be able to restart…
That’s how, lives flow like a river without a source, like a body without a soul…as if nothing had happened.
Thus, lies, silence and fear, become states of being.
Not the little lies of childhood, but the immense lies of the unconscious, those that we make to ourselves, those that one manages to make oneself believe, and this dissociation that prevents one from feeling “it’s serious, it’s not going to be like that at all! ».
This drama reproduces itself ad infinitum, generation after generation, until death follows…
The time has come to stop lying to ourselves, to raise our voices, to say and look at ourselves with kindness, compassion and acceptance of our worst past actions.
No longer to be guilty but responsible for rewriting our value system.
To understand, forgive and forgive ourselves at last.
And be reborn.
With Love
Emmanuelle